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Love the list of what emotional intelligence is NOT, especially this one: thinking you are always right. Yes!

This hits hard because EQ is where leadership actually happens. The leaders who build psychologically safe teams where people speak up, disagree respectfully, and feel heard, aren't the ones with the highest IQ.

The clarity here matters: EQ isn't about being nice or avoiding hard conversations. It's about self-awareness, empathy, and handling conflict in ways that strengthen relationships instead of damaging them.

Emotional intelligence really is the secret sauce for leading well and building a team that actually thrives.

Justin Wright - I agree. Emotional intelligence usually becomes more visible as responsibilities grow because communication, self-awareness, and relationship management start impacting outcomes just as much as technical ability. The “making it easy for people to speak up” point is especially important. Teams tend to perform much better when people feel psychologically safe enough to share ideas, concerns, and disagreements openly.

Justin This is such an important distinction because emotional intelligence is often misunderstood as simply being “nice” or agreeable. In reality, some of the strongest leaders are the ones who can stay grounded under pressure, communicate honestly, and create environments where people feel respected and heard. I’ve noticed that EQ quietly shapes trust, collaboration, and decision making in ways technical skills alone cannot. The ability to regulate yourself while understanding others becomes a real competitive advantage over time.

The ability to regulate yourself under pressure and stay curious about what others are experiencing is harder to develop than most people expect, and more valuable than most people realize.

This is such an important distinction because a lot of people still confuse emotional intelligence with being “nice” or avoiding tension. Real EQ is being able to navigate people, pressure, emotions, and difficult conversations without losing clarity, respect, or self-awareness.

Marc Otiora Exactly!👌

Great post! It has to also start at the TOP to filter down. What is it with leaders and feeback from subordinates? They must have had bad experiences too as you need to know how to run this process.

The ability to stay calm and thoughtful under pressure is a real leadership advantage.

Justin Wright Neither is harder. Both fail for the same reason — no governed structure for processing the input before responding. Self-awareness requires knowing your Goal. Managing reactions requires knowing your Strategy. Without the structure — both default to instinct. CGOSTI maps both. 🔗 cgosti.mightyunits.com

Emotional intelligence is becoming the real competitive advantage. Insightful post by Justin Wright discussing how high performers often succeed because of emotional discipline, not just technical intelligence. • Self-awareness prevents unnecessary conflict • Empathy strengthens leadership influence • Calm responses build psychological safety • Emotional control protects long-term decisions • Respectful communication multiplies trust Also appreciated the reflections shared by professionals in the comments discussing emotional maturity in workplaces. “The strongest minds are usually the calmest under pressure.” “Reaction is instinct. Response is intelligence.” “A person who understands emotions leads differently.” Modern leadership is no longer about domination. It is about emotional regulation, listening, and creating environments where people feel psychologically safe enough to contribute honestly. Warm regards, Dr.(India ) Dhruv Bhikadiya 📍 Timmins, Ontario 📧 drpatel7171@gmail.com LinkedIn Blogspot Academia

💡 95% of high performers have high EQ. That insight from Justin Wright deserves serious attention in today’s leadership culture. Emotional intelligence is not weakness. It is controlled strength. • Listening before reacting • Staying calm under pressure • Creating psychological safety • Respecting emotions without losing logic • Helping others feel heard and valued These are rare professional superpowers. “EQ is the ability to remain human under pressure.” “People may forget what you said, but not how you made them feel.” “Real maturity is measured by reaction, not intention.” In healthcare and leadership environments, technical skills may open opportunities, but emotional intelligence determines long-term trust,. Strong people don’t control others. They learn to control themselves. Dr.(India) Dhruv Bhikadiya 📍 Timmins, Ontario 📧 drpatel7171@gmail.com 🔗 🎓

Emotional intelligence is what allows people to perform well without breaking relationships along the way.

One of the most important lines here: ‘making it easy for people to speak up.’ Teams perform better when people feel heard without fear.

EQ and governance share the same DNA, both demand self-awareness and the discipline to act beyond short-term instinct. Justin Wright

Love this breakdown. So many people think EQ means being soft or agreeable, when really, it’s about being self-aware enough to know when to speak up and when to listen. That “calming presence” piece is underrated. One person in a meeting who doesn’t panic when things go sideways can change the whole energy in the room. Also, “being happy for others when they do well” that one separates real high performers from the insecure ones. Jealousy is such a giveaway of low EQ. Thanks for putting this together. Saving this.

High performance isn’t just about intelligence or technical skill—emotional intelligence plays a huge role in how consistently someone delivers results. Self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to manage pressure often determine how effectively high performers collaborate, lead, and sustain success over time.

Building strong emotional intelligence really does make a difference in leadership. Thanks for sharing these insights-important for creating a positive and collaborative work environment. Looking forward to applying some of these ideas!